The days we once had

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I will never forget the days we once had,
The days we were sharing our joys and sorrows,
My mind used to tell me we'd be together forever,
But now I've realized that it was only a wishful dream.

The feelings we have for each other is fading out,
The day when I willingly let you slide from my arms,
Never did I think of the astonishing pain of regrets,
That I would once have to live through,
Makes my heart shattered into a million pieces.

I sometimes wonder if you still think of me,
Or if to you, I'm just a common face in the crowd.
I wish so that you will find your true happiness one day,
But for now, I will sit here silently,
Remembering all the memories we once shared.

Although days like these is difficult for a while,
But life goes on and gotta move on no matter what,
And time will heal a broken heart day by day,
Hoping that happiness will once shine upon me someday.

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Relationship is like a glass, sometimes it's better to leave them
broken than try to hurt yourself again putting it back together.

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Being Happy

Being happy can be hard sometimes, it's like maintaining a nice home and got to hang on our treasures and throw out the garbage, and it also requires looking for good things as well. One person sees the beautiful view and the other sees the dirty window. When we're unhappy just because life is not as we want it and it's not matching our expectations of how it ought to be perhaps.

Well, it's true that laughter is kind of mechanism may heal person's unhappiness in a short moment or maybe a little longer trying to relieve pains or stress to minimum. I don' think I'm being negative thinking but it's a fact, and what happen next after laughter has gone ?

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Forget things not

Just had a chat with a friend of mine and got to know she left her mobile inside her jacket at office and problem is her jacket just hanging around her cubicle chair. She told me that's not her first time happened like that as she's not only left her mobile before but also house keys, wallet and even her laptop (goshhh...), and now she's worrying her mobile may get stolen at night. My advice for her not to think so much (unless to drive back to office), as many CCTV are installed around the corners and it should be safe by all means.

How forgetful... but i think she's just fine (human do make mistake sometimes) and maybe it's bit funny to hear that, just because... I myself also not the first time to hear she left things at office (hehe...). Guess i probably would get 'something' from her when she read this later :-p

Well, such forgetful case is not only happened to her but me as well. Even now it still happen to me from time to time. Those forgetful things were usually happened to me such as, forgot to bring car key out when i was going to get my car (that's ok); forgot to bring my wallet when i was driving smoothly in car (that's still ok provided i didn't get caught); forgot to bring my soccer boots when i reached football stadium (that's sucks); forgot to bring my brain to work sometimes when i wasn't get enough sleep or sick (that's weird but i couldn't help it), and many more perhaps. Hence, I do understand how people feel when they ever forget things themselves and they might get one or more reaction feelings like this normally - frustrating, regretting, nervous, worrying or helpless.

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Drinking lifestyle

That happened right after my colleague's wedding dinner as I went for drink with friends at 'The Curve' and spent some time in two of the pubs there...

Well, drinking at pub occasionally is fine as I've not been doing this for long time. It was fun while enjoying some good time with friends there but thinking I may be getting little old for this as i got to limit myself for alcoholic drinks nowadays although i still could take it. Perhaps my lifestyle has changed, i would leave the pub in 2 hours or most before my head started to 'ding-dong' here and there (headache) probably because of the loud bass music. Perhaps my time for hanging out at pub has passed but occasionally visit is still fine whenever it's possible.

If given a choice, I'd rather have it at open area/pub with friends, at least i still can breath the fresh air.

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Sleeping late

I used to be a 'Night Owl' - sleep late and not used to go for bed till 2am or maybe much later sometimes. Well, it might be part of the reasons of TV stuff like football live matches, working late, studying or some research...etc.. It sounds pretty crazy to me but scary actually and worrying indeed as it's really really bad for health, chances are some 'good friends' (diseases) may be 'visiting' me one day if i don't change my sleeping cycle.

Well, I believed that a good rest and sound sleep is very important. If we don't sleep well, the toxic in our body will accumulate affecting our health and our mood following are the causes of liver damage !! (Geerrrr.....) and that's some bad lifestyle practices may cause liver damage probably:

=> Sleeping too late and waking up too late.
=> Not urinating in the morning.
=> Too much eating.
=> Skipping breakfast.
=> Consuming too much medication.
=> Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.
=> Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. No fried foods when get tired unless.
=> Consuming overly done foods also add to the burden of liver.

Maintaining a good eating habits and time condition are very important for our body to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals and here's some good lifestyle practices below but wondering how many city folks can follow that exactly:

From 9-11pm : is the time for eliminating unnecessary or toxic chemicals (detoxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes).

From 11pm-3am : detoxification process in the liver then follow by gall, and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state.

From 3-5am : detoxification in the lungs. Therefore there will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time.

From 5-7am : detoxification in the colon, we should empty our bowel.

From 7-10am : Absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, we should be having breakfast at this time. Breakfast before 7:30am is very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Like it or not, it's advised to have breakfast latest by 10am rather than no meal to stomach at all.

In conclusion, sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of removing unnecessary chemicals. Apart from that, from 12-4am is the time when the bone marrow produces blood. Therefore, I try not to sleep later than 1am and get enough rest at ;east 7-8 hours whenever it's possible. Hopefully i can overcome my sleep-late cycle one day. God bless my health !

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Relieve stress

As i know stress consumes our time and energy and weakens our immune system as well. It causes restlessness, unhappiness, impatience and anger and eventually it could have been harm our life, ambitions, relationships and health and there is no doubt that it would be much better to live without it.

Well, i think one of the method probably the best for stress management is through meditation as it exerts a calming effect on the body, nerves and blood pressure, reduces restlessness, and brings peace of mind, detachment and equanimity. To experience the benefits of meditation one needs to meditate everyday, but the problem is that not everyone has the discipline, will and desire to meditate, even when realizing the benefits of meditation.

It is not always possible to control or eliminate the reasons of stress, but it is possible to act and behave in certain ways that could reduce or alleviate it. For example, we can't always control the conditions of our life and circumstances, but we may learn to choose not to be internally influenced by them too much. Anyway, there's some solutions which i think it might help to relieve stress:

-> When stress is building up, STOP what you are doing and take a short walk.
-> When we got stressed, drink some water or juice.
-> When we are understress, take a few slow deep breaths.
-> Eat some food we like, because food can calm down restlessness and nervousness.
-> Listen to our favorite music.
-> Do something that we like doing.
-> Watch a funny movie.
-> Exercise our inner freedom, and DON'T let other people thoughts, opinions, words or actions affect us.
-> Engage in sports or physical activity.

Personally i believed we can manage our stress if we put our mind to it and surely it requires some efforts and times on our part but the rewards are great in return.

"The more peaceful our mind becomes, the less stress we experience."

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Life can be made happier

Life can be made happier and it is a matter of choice. It is our attitude that makes us feel happy or unhappy. It is true that you and i met all kinds of situations during the day, and some of them may not be conductive to happiness. We can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events and we can choose to refuse to think about them, and relish the happy moments instead. Perhaps we constantly gone through various situations and circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions and feelings.

If we let outer events influence our moods then we might become their slaves, chances are we might lose our freedom just because we let our happiness to be determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy and we can do a lot to add happiness to our lives.

Well, happiness is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It is usually experienced when there are no worries, fears or obsessing thoughts, and this usually happens when we do something we love to do or when we get, win, gain or achieve something that we value. It seems to be the outcome of positive events, but it actually comes from the inside, triggered by outer events. Sometimes we may begin the day with the desire to accomplish several objectives. At the end of the day we might feel frustrated and unhappy, because we haven't been able to do all of those things.

For most people happiness seems fleeting because they let changing outer circumstances affect it. One of the best ways to keep it, is by gaining inner peace through daily meditation. As the mind becomes more peaceful, it becomes easier to choose the happiness habit. Most importantly - SMILE more often.

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Bloody hot weather

It's been a HOT sunny days that's happening right now and it's been going on more than 3 weeks (probably longer) without a single drop of rain. Imagine how bad of the bloody weather and i almost get pass out like a bloody 'hot-dog' every nights, every heat of the nights (gerrrrr... @*&^#$%^&...).

How nice with people are enjoying their 'song-song' sleep with air-cond at night in days like this. Also think about people who don't sleep with air-conds while got to shower 3 times in the night and sweat all over body probably just made him more sexy and macho... me la, who else !?

Normally i like sunset because it's romantic especially when walking along the beach, how nice (oh yah!) , but now i just hate that for now because the 'romantic' sunset is just shining right through my window again (oh Fxxx !)... 'Hot-dog' again...shittt !

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A night at funfair - Euro Fun Park

I went to this funfair about two weeks ago and it's just located next to Bukit Jalil stadium. If i can remember it was held next to Jusco-Tebrau City in JB about two year ago but i didn't have much spare time for that when i was there. Well, the overall funfair setup was not really impressed at all especially those lousy game booths and chances are, a doll is given for winning prize mostly doesn't matter it's small or big one...if u're lucky enough to win it (sucks man !). Anyway, i saw some of the fun rides that could make people screaming and yelling like hell when it turned them upside down non-stop. The most relax ride was the 'Euro Wheel' that i could rest and enjoyed the higher view of entire funfair site.



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Drinking red wine

刚开始学喝红酒的人，都会比较喜欢较甜，果香味(fruits)较重的红酒，但是当舌头渐渐的习惯了之后，就会要求较浓，重口味的。其实喝酒是很自我的，依个人喜好，才能品出真真的生活享受，价格贵贱不重要，不要以为贵的就是好的，而勉强自己去喝自己不爱喝得口味。最重要的是你爱上喝酒时的那份安宁、舒服。

品尝红酒全过程:

NO.1：选酒　　
如果你已是“骨灰级”品酒认识，当然就不需要读此文。如果是酒国菜鸟，那建议还是先选一些低度（酒精度在12%以下的）的红酒。　　　　　

NO.2：选杯　　
用来装红酒的酒杯应该是花球形，肚宽口窄。肚宽，可让红酒充分接触空气，氧化生香；口窄，便于把香气聚拢在杯子里，以供鼻子享用。

NO.3：开瓶　　　　
先验证瓶标是否干净，塞子是否紧密，以确认这瓶酒保存是否良好。开瓶后，要仔细观察取出的瓶塞是否湿润，因为瓶塞如果太干燥就有提前氧化的可能。　　　　

NO.4：醒酒　　　　
一般来说，含单宁酸较强的红酒是不需要“醒”的，只要直接倒进杯子里就可。至于那些保存得颇久的上等红酒，那醒酒器是必不可少。　　　　

NO.5：观酒　　　　
倒些许红酒至杯中，端起酒杯，下置一张白纸，细心观看，如果红酒的边缘呈透明状，说明这酒很新；如果边缘呈浅黄色，说明这酒至少有6年的酒龄；如果边缘带紫红色，说明至少已有十年的酒龄。　　　　

NO.6：倒酒　　　　
酒瓶口不能紧挨着酒杯口，倒至酒杯1/3的位置即可，然后贴着桌面将酒杯稍作摇动，使酒味慢慢从杯中溢出。在快倒完之前把瓶口向上转一圈再抬起来，这样可防止酒滴到桌面上。　　　　

NO.7：品酒　　　　
用舌尖把酒包住然后在口腔里转动它，也可进行“咀嚼”，使酒散发出酒香，再由鼻子来感受它。主要通过舌头的味觉再配合鼻子的嗅觉，试出酒味的精妙之处。　　　　

NO.8：抽雪茄+咖啡　　　　
在外国，人们习惯了在喝完红酒之后再抽上一支雪茄，然后来上一杯意大利特浓咖啡，两味点心会有另一种异样的芳香。

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"尽其在我，简单是美"

I seldom use this Chinese phrase to show around and talk about. Maybe it doesn't mean anything in their eyes of my friends and probably they might just laugh it out. Well, that's fine with me as they don't believe i do have a phrase of my own. These words got my attention many years ago and it reflected my thoughts about the meaning of being simple. Even so, I still always used to remember it by heart till now.

The English translation of this phrase is - 'Try my best, simple is beautiful'. I like that because the meaning has given me a kind of simple impression towards life in whatever i do and wherever i go. As simple as that just like "随心随想，简单生活" (Think freely, simple life) that I've been thinking and hoping every now and then. ~ Go Simple ! ~

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My pre-birthday night out celebration

It was my pre-birthday night out with buddies where i was brought to my friend's pub for drink last night. Well, the environment there i would say was completely different - like late 80's style with singers performing on stage singing all Chinese pop songs (walao ehh..my goodness !). A bit shocked to see that but that's ok and we were enjoyed being there anyway.

Needless to say, I had prepared any 'consequences' when the clock is reaching 12am as where we had two 'towers' of Carlsberg with another 20 bottles more. I was thinking if I could finish a 'tower' as everyone know I'm not a good drinker (shit man...). So i think the best way is to trying to 'hideout' and 'yiong yue' (in Cantonese, maintain drinking level) after it reached my level, think about 7-8 glass gua... Surely, I went for pee frequently (not vomitting la) to avoid unnecessary 'consequences' la :-p

"Ding Ding"... the clock has passed 12.00 AM - "Happy Birthday... ya, I'm getting older again and smarter !" (hehe..). I've received sms greeting from friends as some were not able to come and I replied sms, replied like mad and replied lots to my dear friend...so warm huh. It was about 2am when we finished the second 'tower' and it was time to say goodbye.

Well, i was trying to catch-up the second Euro2008 live match at home but i couldn't help it myself even though i wasn't drunk to continue watching before the TV is 'watching' me instead. That's it... i dropped my head on my lovely pillow finally...oh what a night ! (ZZzZzzZzz.....)

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36 ways to reduce stress

An angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'

Sounds right indeed but how many people can really follow that when they're worrying... believe it or not, there are 36 ways to reduce stress. I read through it and found most method are useful and applied in our life (if it happen to you). I'm pretty sure it would help to overcome your stress regardless of whichever religion you with.

1. Pray.
2. Go to bed on time.
3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of
the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.
17. Get enough rest.
18. Eat right.
19. Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go
to bed to try and pray.
24. Make friends with Godly people.
25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.
26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank you Jesus.'
27. Laugh.
28. Laugh some more!
29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
30. Develop a forgiving attitude. (Most people are doing the best they can.)
31. Be kind to unkind people. (They probably need it the most.)
32. Sit on your ego.
33. Talk less; listen more.
34. Slow down.
35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
36. Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU.


'If God is for us, who can be against us?'
- Romans 8:31